It has been said that it takes 17 muscles to smile and 43 to frown.  (I did a little more research on that and these numbers may not be exactly right, but there is a good principle here in any case.)  It seems that we spend time and energy being unhappy rather than simply relaxing and being happy.

In her book, “My Stroke of Insight”, Jill Bolte Taylor talks about recognizing the “little voice” in the left brain that just keeps making up stories, and she speaks of the need to quiet that voice.  Eckhart Tolle talks constantly about simply being in the present, or the now, because there are no problems in the now.  All problems exist only in the past or in the future.  Abraham (from Esther and Jerry Hicks and the Abraham-Hicks material) says that our only goal needs to be to “be happy now.”

We do live in a loving Universe.  We live in a Universe that is prepared to meet our every need and grant our every wish.  When we desire something, it is available to us.  Once we express a desire all we need to do is focus on it, and then allow it to enter our existence.  So why is it that we do not see continual and constant manifestation of all of our desires?  The short answer is that we do.  Everything in our experience is a direct result of our own thoughts.  As far as experiencing the things that we want to deliberately create, we simply fall down on the allowing end of the spectrum.

Allowing is like the proverbial smile.  It takes fewer muscles, and far less action, to allow than to disallow.  We are action and worry oriented though.  So we prefer to try and work our desires into reality.  The harder we work, the more frustrated we get.  The more frustrated we get, the more unhappy we get.  As we get unhappy, we work harder and pretty soon the allowing is lost in the noise and the buzz that we are generating.  We end up focused on the lack of our desire…and so, we manifest precisely our focus…the lack.

We can break out of this cycle of frustration and lack…and it requires much less effort than staying in this cycle…although it does require a new focus.  Here are the simple steps to allowing, and more importantly, to stop disallowing.

1)      Be clear on what you desire – Write it down.  Write it down a few times.  Commit a simple desire statement to memory.

2)      Be happy with the outcome of your desire – Make sure that you feel good when you think of your desire being manifest.  You should be able to envision your life with your desire manifest and feel joy…not just feel the absence of lack.  This is a key distinction.  Make sure you understand and feel your desire being joyous and not just as another band-aid to stop the current trauma.

3)      Ask for your desire – Spend five to ten minutes in a quiet place and ask God, Source, the Universe, whatever your name for the Universal Power is for your desire, and give thanks for receiving it.  Focus on the desire, the positive feelings when it is received and gratitude you feel for where you are now.

4)      Stop pushing and stop asking – The Universe never loses an order and it never fails to deliver.  Continual asking is a statement of lack and is the wrong focus.  Take action only as you feel the gentle nudges of the Universe…not as a series of desperate measures to try and force your desire into reality now.  Spend time focusing on the “gaps”.  Quiet your mind often and simply relax into the joy of the Universe.

5)      Watch your desire manifest – Once you stop doubting, stop changing your order, stop making yourself crazy with all the “left brain” stories, relax and use a few muscles to smile, your desire will simply move naturally into your world.  There are no exceptions and no limitations.  This works every single time.

The only reason we don’t see immediate manifestation of our desires is because we take action out of doubt and fear and lack, and so, we focus on disallowing.  Stop the disallowing and the allowing appears.  It really is as easy as that.